“Tell me about yourself?”
It sounds like a simple question. But for many, it’s anything but easy.
Strangely, it’s often easier to highlight the strengths of a colleague than to confidently speak about one’s own story. After decades of living life, the question can still trigger a mental blank, like meeting yourself for the first time.
This isn’t unusual. The struggle often stems from how people are raised to avoid bragging, fear rejection, carry past failures, or battle anxiety. These internal roadblocks are common, and they’re human.
In trying to understand why self-advocacy feels so difficult, countless individuals have turned to books, podcasts, and talks like Jia Jiang’s “What I learned from 100 days of rejection” (watch here). The underlying insight? The mind is malleable. It all boils down to neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to rewire itself.
There’s no quick fix, but change is possible. It begins with awareness. Old thought patterns and limiting beliefs don’t have to define the future. With intention, self-compassion, and a willingness to rumble with vulnerability (thank you, Brené Brown), transformation is within reach.
While no one else can do the inner work for you, you’re not alone. Many have walked similar paths and generously shared their insights. Tools, stories, and support—from books to therapy—are available. Lori Gottlieb’s TED Talk on changing your narrative is one powerful resource (watch here).
In careers especially, self-advocacy is vital. The question “Tell me about yourself” isn’t just small talk—it sets the tone in interviews, influences first impressions, and can shape the outcome of an opportunity. Owning your story and learning how to present it confidently isn’t vanity; it’s strategy.
So here’s a challenge: reexamine the “this is just how I am” script. Edit your story. Be intentional. Speak up. Because the way you talk about yourself can open doors—or keep them closed. You have something to offer. Make sure the world hears it.